I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO IT.
If you clicked on this because you were expecting me to give you some answers on how it's done... well, baby - I have no idea. I really never thought it would be this difficult! And I'm not talking about childhood friends. Or work friends. Or college friends. Or your boyfriend/girlfriend's friends. I'm talking about being a grown person and wanting friends who share tons of similar interests and live within a decent radius of your home. THOSE! I WANT SOME OF THOSE!
I realized today that the last time I made a friend like that was almost EIGHT YEARS AGO. And even that took a few weeks of getting her to call me back for the first time. Thankfully I was consistent ('cause I knew she was a good one) and we've had a long and fruitful friendship (I love you, Jenn) since that time.
I'm not saying I'm not thankful for the friends I currently have and love, but is it not human to want more? Also, a lot of my current friends live in a different country from me, so could that be a major factor here? Is it harder to meet people as an adult when you move countries? My mom moved from Trinidad as an adult and she didn't really meet a ton of new people after she moved, so maybe that's a huge factor that I've been ignoring. But even so, should it be this hard?
Where am I supposed to meet people? At parks? Walking my dog? Taking out the trash? I visit a park maybe once a year. My dog is terrified of any human being approaching us in the street. And I don't take out the trash.
I don't want to meet a possible new friend at a bar since bars seem exclusive for romantic meetings. If I had more hobbies, would it be easier then? Who the hell has hobbies? What if I don't want a friend who has hobbies? DO YOU SEE HOW HARD THIS IS? Don't even get me started on trying to make a friend of the opposite sex as an adult - IT AIN'T HAPPENING. Way too many complications and misinterpretations.
You know what I would love? A great neighbour. But even if I had one, how would I even know it? Neighbours don't have lengthy conversations anymore. Did they ever? I think they did. They did in my hometown when I was a kid. That was the prime time for making adult friends, I guess. The suburban nineties: friendships galore.
Do I have a point? I guess I don't. Or no wait, I do! Take care of the friends you have. Y'ain't getting any more.
It'd be funny if I'm the only one with this problem and you're reading this going, "Wow, this is embarrassing for her. I have no idea what she's talking about." If that is the case, you're not the type of friend I'm looking for anyway.