And I’m so glad that I did. What an incredible woman. Favourite parts ahead.
“Memories are immortal. They’re deathless and precise.”
“That period of my life was filled with shame. The feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you have stage fright or humiliation. Shame completely eviscerates you, destroys any sense of pride you may have in yourself.”
“Success pales in comparison to healing.”
“May you live long enough to know why you were born.” - Cherokee birth blessing
“Jump, and you will find out how to unfold your wings as you fall.” - Ray Bradbury
“Everybody has secrets. Everybody. I guess the difference is that we either die with them and let them eat us up, or we wrestle with them (or they wrestle with us) until we… reconcile. Secrets are what swallow us.”
“Life is happening as your career is happening. Stone-cold life. I realized my joy is not just attached to artistic fulfillment, but life fulfillment.”
“A mutual friend of ours, Tommy Hollis, told me a story about Danitra. He said he saw a performance art piece of hers called “The Feminist Stripper.” She came onstage and began to take off items of clothing. She had music playing and was cracking jokes while stripping. Everyone was on the floor laughing and egging her on! She got down to her thong and her back turned to the audience, tantalizing them before ripping off her bra. She then turns around and reveals her mastectomy scar; a big X made of tape covered the scar. There was a collective silence, a brutal quiet in the room. They were forced to contend with the woman who was in that body and not just the body itself. Tommy said his heart stopped and he would never forget that experience. She died about two months later. When she passed her final words were, “Y’all have a parade.””
“Success is wonderful, but it’s not who you are. Who you are is measured by something way more abstract and emotional, ethereal, than outward success.”
“I know for sure what we dwell on is what we become.” (This was her quoting Oprah, but still including it.)
“My biggest discovery in life was that you can literally re-create your life. You can redefine it. You don’t have to live in the past.”
“Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a different past.”
“The purpose of life is to live it.”
“Even if the Oscar had never happened, it would have still been a defining moment for me. It was an overflow of blessings that I could not even possibly have imagined for myself. What I have realized since is that those moments of feeling alive are part of a continuum. You find that moment. You bask in it. Then as soon as it passes, life becomes about chasing the next moment. I now understand that life, and living it, is more about being present. I’m now aware that the not-so-happy memories lie in wait; but the hope and joy also lie in wait.”
Such an incredible read, especially for actors/performers.
I laughed so hard when Fabian started singing and the show immediately cut to the three women arguing. Justice for my man! #TheWhiteLotuspic.twitter.com/yae19EwOJU
It’s been like 4-5 episodes without any update on what happened with this guy’s hedge fund. His story line deserved more than popping a ton of lorazepam https://t.co/qSzwOKFA7L
“stop thinking about the love you didn’t get, think about the love you have. I’m right here. I love you” oh, Chelsea you were too pure of heart #TheWhiteLotuspic.twitter.com/C1ibV4Ls0N
Laurie showing she’s a true New Yorker 😂😭 if this was intentional, probably the smartest writing of any show in a long time. ! #TheWhiteLotuspic.twitter.com/4hviR6zZuo
Not Carrie Coon delivering that Emmy-worthy monologue about friendship only to leave them to die once the shooting started lmao #TheWhiteLotuspic.twitter.com/joee9JQwl2
I love an unforgettable finale facial expression from a White Lotus character who had the most unexpected character development over the course of the season pic.twitter.com/nvZ2OnU8jb
Thinking about this story that Walton Goggins told GQ about being in Thailand 20 years before filming White Lotus after his wife's suicide and how it all came flooding back https://t.co/9iKqVK2Ernpic.twitter.com/Ai8KOG3JTl
Considering how bad January and February were, it’s kind of a miracle that this past month was so full of good things. I had the best birthday (of my life?) and it feels like there’s so much hope. Am I deluding myself? Anything is possible! But I’m going to try and ride this high as long as I can. Here’s what went down last month.
The best tweets of the month can be found over here.
I made these cottage cheese crackers that are ridiculously good. I’ll put the recipe below because I got it from someone’s mom on Facebook (jesus, that’s the most I-just-turned-40 statement I’ve made so far).
Cottage cheese crackers
I brush the parchment paper with olive oil as well so that nothing sticks
Speaking of turning 40, Nathan took me to Turks and Caicos to celebrate and it was an incredible trip. I should probably do a post about it. Yeah, I’ll do that. Stay tuned.
I finally visited The New York Earth Room art exhibit that’s been going on for decades and it was very neat.
The New York Earth Room art exhibit
Discovered the secret to amazing chicken parm: get bone-in. Changes the entire game.
Nathan and I have started picking up garbage around our neighborhood twice a week and it’s been great. He got a trash grabber stick months ago, and it might seem insane but it makes us feel pretty good.
Some things I watched:
The Monkey - hated majority of it. And I realized just how much I loathe this new genre of body-harm horror. It’s gaining traction and I can’t stand it (think Hereditary, Smile 2 etc.)
I’m all caught up on The White Lotus and this season isn’t the greatest, so that’s been disappointing.
I’ve really been considering whether or not I should go to Dollywood this year. It’s the 40th anniversary (which we share), so that’s why I was thinking about it. Just a thought.
I saw The Jonathan Larsan Project (so good) and Buena Vista Social Club (stellar). I didn’t realize how much I really missed going to shows.
I’ve been using the Trader Joe’s facial sunscreen (the Goop dupe) for a few years now, but I saw actual proof of how good it is recently. When I was on vacation, I guess I forgot to sunscreen the very top part of my forehead and to see the difference between that small area and the rest of my sunscreened face after an afternoon in the sun? Wow. This stuff is a holy grail product.
I am in love with these duos that Target keeps releasing each season (below).
Friends
I had lunch at La Mercerie and it was good, I don’t know that I’d ever need to go back but it was fine. The older I get, the more I tend to be annoyed at trendy places.
I’m still making these GF bean muffins constantly. Yes they sound disgusting, but they might be the best chocolate chip muffins I’ve ever had. I should stop telling people that they have beans in them.
I did a spring french tip manicure and it turned out pretty good!
Spring french tips
Some things I’m looking forward to this month: it’ll be nice to pack away my winter clothing, I have to start looking for wedding guest dresses and I’d really like to make this firecracker chicken again.
I’m lowkey looking too far into this but I think the world would be a better place if everyone was this unapologetically excited about their lives. Having fun with it. Finding their lane and running with it. Just like this guy. https://t.co/uH88ClyQeq
— joshualino fagottino prezioso (@siguntyr) March 22, 2025
iris by goo goo dolls really is insane though. I'd give up forever to touch you? you're the closest to heaven I'll ever be? all I can breathe is your life? and I don't want the world to see me cause I don't think they'd understand? when everything's meant to be broken I just want…
The beginning of this year has been rough to say the least. There’s no way to know when things might get easier, but in the meantime - here’s what went down these past two months.
The best tweets of January can be found here and the best tweets of February can be found here.
Very in love with this Patcha Soap Co. salt scrub I got from Healthy Planet. A salt scrub is forever a good gift, especially the Sabon ones.
I ate at the gluten-free place Gud Daae on Lakeshore and it was so good.
Potato Pucks at Gud Daae
Brown Chicken Sandwich at Gud Daae
Sundae at Gud Daae
I’ve come to the newish conclusion that Sephora has nothing for me. Every single time I enter that store, I feel an alarming amount of rage. Stop telling women what they need.
Andrew Dismukes has been so good on SNL lately. I’m not sure how I didn’t notice this sooner.
I took my niece Maya to see Come From Away and it was even better than the New York production (maybe because the accents were better?).
Come From Away in Toronto, ON
I bought (and had tailored) these Gap jeans and I also bought a pair of tan loafers. Really testing out a new aesthetic here.
I finally tried out the Mel Brooks idea of slicing a bagel into three parts instead of two and I feel enlightened.
Mel Brooks is a genius mainly because of this idea
I took the kids to a maple syrup farm (Elliot Tree Farm) because it should be law that every Canadian child must see how sap is made at some point. Of course their gift shop had some gems (below).
The most Canadian candle
Incredible
I cancelled my Costco membership because I’m trying to support less American companies, so I found Bulk Mart (which is Canadian) and it’s great so far.
Some things I watched:
The Substance - such a great movie. The sounds/audio was brutal to hear at times, but all in all one of the best movies of last year for sure.
Babygirl - loved it.
Jerry Springer: Fights, Camera, Action (documentary) - pretty despicable, hard to watch.
Child Star (documentary) - it was good, but there was too much of a focus on Demi Lovato (which makes sense because she made it) but I was expecting less of her.
Enlightened - I hated Laura Dern’s character so much that it made it hard to watch.
The Apprentice (movie) - meh. But Jeremy Strong was fantastic.
The Resort - the first half of the series was good, but then it took a turn.
Mommy Meanest - I love watching a bad Lifetime TV movie maybe once a year.
Little Women (the 90s one) - how have I never seen this before? Absolutely loved it.
Big Little Lies - I was expecting more since the cast is so wild, but it kind of sucked. I really don’t think Laura Dern is a good actress and the writing was so bad.
Succession (rewatch) - Logan is so much funnier upon second viewing, I didn’t notice that before.
Lost (rewatch) - still great. Still can’t really explain the ending.
The Last Showgirl - I do like Pamela Anderson but wow is she a bad actress. Also Jamie Lee Curtis overacts in every single thing she does these days and Bautista was so hollow. The script was awful, but since it had a nepo director it’s not surprising that it wasn’t good. I did like that I could tell it was shot at the Rio in Vegas but otherwise, hard pass.
Heart Eyes - love Devon Sawa, but this was nothing special. I do love a themed horror movie always, though.
The White Lotus - god, this season sucks so far. It’s just so slow, I can’t stand it.
It would be insane if I didn’t mention it here, but Baby Dog passed away in January and everything collapsed around me. It happened quickly, but I was with her until the end and it’s hard to speak about it at all even now. Every time it snows it makes me think of her so of course there was record snowfall this year. It still doesn’t feel real, so I’m just trying to take it day by day.
i just know he went back to his locker and saw that outfit hanging there and was like fuuuuuck now i have to walk out of here all groovy 😔 https://t.co/QGs2y6X3d5
— Images AI Could Never Recreate (@imagesaicouldnt) February 12, 2025
do NOT include “we’ve had our ups and downs” in your valentine’s day caption if you’re not going to tell us what the ups and downs were!!!!!! who has the gambling addiction??? what happened on the girls trip to miami???
If you wanna know why ex-Viking, Chris Kluwe was Kapernicked by NFL a few years b4 Colin & Eric Reid, this is why. He fought for marriage equality & showed solidarity w/Trayvon, but as a punter, he was expendable w/plausible deniability. Good 2 see him back. https://t.co/bOOugswdH5
I found it interesting Monoray Books chose (in this age of TikTok etc) to ask me to do some of my 'painted envelopes' to tell bookshops about my forthcoming book, The Postal Paths - but they seem to have caught people's attention. Long live real letters!https://t.co/mJmUakohOSpic.twitter.com/jCh5dObDPA
In all honesty, this was the hardest month I’ve had in a very long time so I don’t think I can really talk about any of it yet. I’m taking some time, so give me a few weeks and I’ll do my best to continue the monthly posts as soon as I feel that I can.
Thank you for even coming here, and even more for understanding.
I’m convinced that Mark Wahlberg is doing this movie so that it will be the new top Google search result for “Mark Wahlberg plane” instead of his 9/11 quote. https://t.co/QXJu1MsM9Q
Demi Moore’s #GoldenGlobes acceptance speech for THE SUBSTANCE has me sobbing. “You’ll never be enough. But you can know the value of your worth if you just put down the measuring stick.” pic.twitter.com/Dc5dZoyWJy
i love the "never kill yourself" genre bc it captures the slippery truth that the distance between a life worth living and wanting to die really is, like, one minor amusement a day
that's why it's imperative to go outside and look at things and try to like them https://t.co/5SssQesysq
About a year ago I was walking home carrying toilet paper and a teenager yelled “that guy be shittin!!!” and his friends laughed and laughed. I never thought I’d be able to walk with tp and no tote bag. But today, I stopped living in fear!!! pic.twitter.com/wN6h9zJLb7
Got a Philly cheesesteak from Gladiator Burger and wow. Will definitely return.
I will fully admit that crumbl cookies are overrated, but their monthly dessert specials are wondrous. Look at this eggnog tres leche (below). She’s beautiful.
Eggnog tres leche
I perused the new Half Baked Harvest cookbook and it’s absolutely nothing revolutionary, there’s a cheeseburger pasta in it for christsake. I still think we should force a limit on how many books a food blogger can release.
I did make these white wine mushroom stuffed shells and they were (as most HBH recipes are) probably too cheesy, but the vegetarians liked them so I guess it was a win.
White wine mushroom stuffed shells
I also made this slow cooker roast and it was so easy and perfect for lunch sandwiches on Christmas day. And secured the greatest (Canadian)grocery store cake: the caramel crunch cake.
Die Hard - yes, it’s insane that I’ve never seen it before now. So good.
Challengers - LOVED Zendaya’s character. Second favourite movie of the year (first was Anora). Only question was HOW was that hotel bed that big??
Jagged Edge - pretty good. I love this genre of movies (80s/early 90s thriller/mystery).
Carry On - anticlimactic ending, but overall not terrible.
Nosferatu - liked it! Honestly it could’ve just been the fun of who I saw it with, but truly hard to tell.
These little guys (below) continue to make me smile each day.
Would die for them
Some things that I’m looking forward to this month: I’m going to start using this first-of-the-month checklist again and I’ll recap my resolutions from last year as well as make new 2025 ones.
