“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
This has been making me laugh, no joke, off and on for the part twenty-four hours. Can’t stop thinking about it. PLAY WITH SOUND.
Banza Chickpea Pasta
Okay, I'm not sure if you're aware of this or not, but we live in a world where chickpea pasta exists and it is delicious. I first found out about Banza online when I was researching alternatives to regular and whole wheat pasta (Why? Because I hate myself probably?) and it came down to me trying chickpea pasta as well as soba noodles as a substitute for pasta. (Quick tip: the texture is a little too slimy for anyone to think soba & regular noodles are interchangeable, but just my opinion.)
I found Banza at Whole Foods (because of course) and I'd love to say that I'll never go back to regular pasta, but I definitely will because the rest of the human race will never exclusively get on board with feeding me chickpea, unfortunately. Long story short, this pasta is amazing. Tastes exactly like other pasta, maybe better? If you're making something sauce-heavy, the shells really hold on to the sauce and make it luxurious as hell. You have to try it. It comes in spaghetti, linguine and little shells - I've tried them all, the shells are the best. I've never seen them in stock, but they also have penne, rotini and elbows.
Note: this isn't even a sponsored post. God, I wish it was. Then they'd send me so much f-ing pasta, I'd be set for life.
Goodbye August
Seche Vite Top Coat
Available on Amazon
Available on Amazon
Never heard of the brand, never used their color polishes, but this top coat is the king of all top coats. Can't believe it took me this long to find it. Word of advice? Listen to beauty blogger's recommendations. They're 99% right most of the time. Seche Vite dries in literally five minutes. FIVE MINUTES. I even tested out that theory by washing the dishes afterward and holy shit, it held up. I mean, I delicately did those dishes because I was so nervous, but still. The smell of the top coat is kind of weird/bad, but that disappears once it's completely dry.
I'm not sure how hard this is to find in stores because I always see it at Harmon Face Values, but if you ever paint your nails, this is the only top coat you'll ever need. FIND IT.
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On This Week's Positive Anger
Nathan & I just had our eight year anniversary this week, so I went on his podcast and HERE IT BE.
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If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? By Alan Alda - A Review
Available on Amazon
Available on Amazon
We're all aware of my feelings for Alan Alda. Man's got heart. So it only makes sense that I'd read his latest book. He actually did a signing at Barnes and Noble for this one, but I couldn't make it 'cause of work. In retrospect, I should've just called in sick. I will meet this gem of a man one day and it will be wonderful. Anyway, onto the book!
All right, so this isn't your typical Alda book. In other words, it's in no way autobiographical. It's about communication and empathy, essentially. And at first that really bummed me out 'cause I was expecting it to be another memoir filled with stories and anecdotes. This is not that. It was, however, something I would've never finished had it not been written with his voice. Thoughts ahead.
I mean, c'mon. The dedication to his wife? How can something be so loving and succinct at the same bloody time!? Love this guy.
"I was starting to think of the possible failure of the study as a public service, and we hadn't even begun it yet. In science, as in art, I thought, you only arrive at success after you run the gauntlet of failures. People should be aware of that. I'd be glad to write about the failure of this idea."
I really have to try meditation again. I always attempt it briefly and then get side-tracked or busy or a dozen other excuses. I really want to maintain it as an activity in my life. Can't remember what part in the book mentioned it, but he obviously spoke of it lovingly.
There was also a chapter that went into detail about this one thing that sounds kind of stupid at first. But a study was done that essentially if you lock eyes with a dog and maintain that eye contact for longer than a few seconds or so, the dog will feel more of a bond with you and trust you easier. From there, the study went on to suggest that doing that, actively, with a person you're close with will only strengthen your bond with that person. Especially over time. So what you're supposed to do is start with staring into someone's eyes for ten seconds one day, then thirty seconds the next day, and just add more time as each day goes on. I sort of forgot about this experiment, but I did try it for ten seconds after begging Nathan to try it with me. It's definitely weird at first, but I could see it becoming stronger the more you do it. I really want to try it again to see what would happen and I encourage you to as well if you're so inclined.
There's this "Reading The Mind In The Eyes" test that you can take online to test your empathy levels that was pretty fun. (I got 26/36, which was surprising, I thought I'd do way better.)
"There are times we know what the rational action should be, but don't take it until we consider what the other person is feeling. I know, in my own life, I sometimes respond to a question with an answer that isn't really helpful. "Have you seen the can opener?" is not fully answered by saying, "No, I haven't seen it." The other person is still at a loss. I know it seems obvious, but sometimes remembering what it feels like to be facing a can without an opener can produce a little spark of empathy. If I respond to that spark, I might add a few words: "Maybe it's in that other drawer with the soup spoons." Boom. I'm cooperating, and the spurt of reward hormones in my brain is a sign it's been worth the effort. But as good as those reward hormones feel, I'm not thinking, in this book, of empathy as the basis of good behavior or morality; I'm looking at it as a tool for communication. I think it's an essential tool, and while it can be misused, it can help us make those important connections that lead to understanding."
"But genuine humor and true, open laughter almost always lead to engagement. As Larry Cahill said, quoting the great Danish comedian Victor Borge, "Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.""
"Not being able to communicate is the Siberia of everyday life - a place that, crazily, we often send ourselves to."
It was actually a really great book and I'm so glad I finished it. This man can write about anything and engage absolutely any reader.
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